How to Change Your Life

Wouldn’t it be great if schools taught all the skills needed to succeed in life? Unfortunately, most of us have to learn through trial and error—or not at all. We’ve pinpointed six skills that are easy to learn. Once you know the ins and outs, they can change your outlook, improve your mood and impact the way you feel every day.

Give and Receive Compliments
When you give a real compliment, the recipient feels valued and unique. When you accept a compliment gracefully, you acknowledge the giver and a positive part of yourself.

Learn to make compliments sincere. Focus on a one-of-a-kind quality or something that you genuinely admire about a person.

Forget about dismissing compliments. Don’t say, “Oh, it’s nothing” or “Are you crazy?” If someone tells you that you look good, reply with, “Thank you, I feel good” or “Thanks, this outfit is my favorite” instead of “Really? I think these jeans make my hips look big.”

Do it Give one compliment each day for the next month.

Remember “Your words create what you speak about. Learn to speak positively.” Sanaya Roman

Speak Up for Yourself
People—especially the men in our lives—are not mind readers. While you may wish that others could automatically know what you’re thinking, if you don’t tell them what you need, you probably won’t get it.

Learn to suspend judgment on yourself. If, for example, you need to go to the gym three times a week to feel your best, don’t tell yourself you’re a bad mother because this takes away time from the family. Instead take responsibility for your needs. Explain to your family that gym time is important to you and then present a plan on how you will make it happen.

Forget about hiding your feelings. “Even though it can be scary, you have to be up-front about your needs. It’s the only way to get what you want,” says Shari Hemesath, a life coach specializing in women’s issues.

Do it Start with something simple. Do you meet a friend every Saturday for lunch at a location that’s easy for her but inconvenient for you? Next time, you choose the destination and tell her to meet you there.

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